Micah 5:1-7:20
“Do not rejoice over me, my enemy! Though I have fallen, I will stand up; though I sit in darkness, the LORD will be my light.” Micah 7:8

Well folks, it’s that time again! Sunday SHMILY! 😀 (SHMILY=See How Much I Love You)
Here are my pics from this week.


I know I’ve already shared this photo with you, but I just HAD to include it in my SHMILY post. He loves me enough to put me through 9 months of… well, there are no real words concise enough to describe what these last 9 months were. I KNOW that part of that time was spent to make sure I completely understood the importance and magnitude of what would come next. THIS is what came next, the job I’d been dreaming of! This week was my first week back in the classroom and I could not be happier about it!


The student – faculty basketball game at my first homecoming pep session at Sheridan! 😀 (a faculty member tore his Achilles tendon and is having surgery this week and could use some prayers too.)


Yup. If you look closely (on the top shelf) those are two of my books available in Capstone Bookstore in Northview Church in Carmel! 😀


A heart chicken nugget at lunch.


I unearthed a cute little smile after I cleaned the kitchen table off.


My daughter is a genius! I told her to rinse the grapes off and then let the water drip off of them for awhile. I was busy putting groceries away and didn’t notice what she had done for quite awhile. I turned around and saw that she had hung the bag over the faucet so it could drip. So smart! I have never thought to do that in all the years of cleaning grapes so I had to share!

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Day 24: Weapon

Micah 5:1-7:20

Look at the ships also, though they are so great and are driven by strong winds, are still directed by a very small rudder wherever the inclination of the pilot desires. So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things, see how great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, the very world of iniquity; the tongue is set among our members as that which defiles the entire body, and sets on fire the course of our life, and is set on fire by hell. James 3:4-6

You know the old adage; “if you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all”? I think that applies here in marriage most of all. Our words hold such power and we don’t even realize it. Our words have the power to cut our husbands to the quick, or pull them up from a pit of despair. Our words are power-filled, and must therefore be carefully guarded. When I looked up “words”, “mouth” & “tongue” in a bible search engine I was amazed at how many scriptures deal with what comes out of our mouths. God is a man of few words, so when He says something once in the bible, you listen. If he says it twice, then it must be very important. If he says it 856 times, well, you listen, obey, and then listen some more!

Our tongues are the greatest weapon of mass destruction; they are like a nuclear bomb in a marriage. And just like a bomb, if not guarded carefully they can be dropped and decimate our precious husband. Our words can go two ways, they can build up, or they can tear down. And just because your husband (or friend, or brother or neighbor or stranger) acts in a way deserving of harsh words, it does not give you permission to cut them down with the sword of your tongue!

There’s a public service announcement where a mom is buckling her baby into its car seat, all nice and secure. Then the mom gets into the car, and locks the doors, and lights a cigarette. That baby is locked into that position of being forced to breathe that cigarette smoke and damage its lungs. Our negative words do the same thing to the people around us. They are like a thick black smoke. As the negative words pour out of our mouths the black smoke billows and fills the room. And the people around us are forced to breathe it in simply because they are near enough to hear. This smoke poisons your entire being with negative attitudes and thoughts. So the next time you’re driving with your kids in the car and you’re tempted to swear, or even speak harshly at the driver that just cut you off, remember, HE can’t hear you, but your kids can. He will not be affected by the black negative attitude smoke coming out of your mouth, but you and your children will be. The things that we think about are “stored up” in our hearts. (Remember Luke 6:45? The good man [or woman] out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart.) Therefore the things that we think about are also coming out of our mouths as well. Before the fast I was constantly complaining to my friends about how horrible my husband was, I was constantly thinking about how horrible he was. Then when he came home, I’d start talking to him and treating him like a horrible husband. On the other hand, once I decided that I needed to change my attitude I started telling my friends how wonderful my husband is, and then I was thinking about all the great things that he does for me and how much he loves me. Now, when he gets home, I of course start talking to him and treating him like he is a wonderful husband. In the beginning, I was fighting momentum and it WAS NOT EASY. But I didn’t give up! Turning your weapon of mass destruction into a tool for building is possible.

The one who guards his mouth preserves his life; the one who opens wide his lips comes to ruin. (Proverbs 13:3) Speaking rashly to your husband could just manage to push him down farther and you with him. With [the tongue] we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God; from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way. (James 3:9-11) Praise can flow from our lips like fresh water from a mountain spring. Your husband was made in God’s image, just as you were, praise him too. A man’s character is what matters most; both to his wife and to the man himself. Women marry men for their character. Men see themselves by their character. If you really want to praise your man, praise his character. NEVER insult his character.

Christian’s comments:

It’s dangerous to walk around with a loaded weapon, especially if it’s in your mouth! Make sure that your tongue doesn’t have a hair trigger. Be quick to think, but slow to speak.

Throughout our relationship, I’ve often told Tamar to think before she speaks. Don’t get me wrong, she doesn’t mean to say hurtful things to other people; it just comes across that way sometimes. We are ALL guilty of doing this. We start speaking before the entire thought is formed in our mind.

Accidentally saying harsh words occasionally can be hurtful to others for a short time. Purposefully saying harsh words often can be hurtful to others for a lifetime. The words don’t even have to be directed at someone to be harmful to them. If my son hears me constantly berating Tamar, how is he going to speak to his own wife? If the child’s father (or mother) is constantly complaining and swearing, that is all the child is going to know.

So, in essence, I guess what I’m suggesting is, speak only good, helpful things to build each other up, or keep your big mouth shut.

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Day 23: Mirror Mirror

Micah 1:1-4:13

Moreover, he made the laver [or basin] of bronze, from the mirrors of the serving women who served at the doorway of the tent of meeting. Exodus 38:8

The basin of washing, or laver of bronze depending on your translation, was made from the mirrors of the women. This means that every time the priests washed themselves so that they could enter the presence of the LORD in the temple they saw their reflection in the mirrored bottom of the basin. God still uses this technique on us today. He calls us to look at ourselves and our actions and face the fact that we are not perfect but sinful beings in need of His help. Then we get to move on into a closer and more intimate relationship with Him. Today, He is holding the mirror before your face. What do you see?

Fold a piece of paper in half so that it looks like a hot dog bun (the preschool teacher in me just came out). Now keeping the paper folded, on the first side write down everything that your husband does that just drives you mad. Once you’ve finished your list, open up the paper and on the second column write your reactions to each of those things. For example:

The Mirror:

What he does that drives me crazy:

My reaction to that:

He leaves his dirty dishes in the living room.

I yell at him for being lazy and making me do all the work around the house.

Next, fold the paper back up and look only at column two. Read down the list of your reactions. This is what you look like to your husband. This is what he sees.

I had a couple of nights in a row where Christian came home very very late on school nights, I was sitting at my desk writing and just fuming because he wasn’t home yet, and God said to me, “Tamar, why would he want to come home to this? Why would he WANT to rush home to you being cold and mad at him?” The first night God said this to me, I didn’t care, I was mad and I was going to let Christian know it. On the second night, it made me think, “why WOULD he want to come home to that? I wouldn’t.” In Proverbs 20:11 it says “It is by his deeds that a lad distinguishes himself if his conduct is pure and right.” We are known by our actions, what are your reactions saying about you?

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