The following is an excerpt from our book True Intimacy.
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And on His robe and on His thigh He has a name written, “KING OF KINGS AND LORD OF LORDS”. Revelation 19:16
God is the King, and not just any king; He is the King of all kings. He is the Lord over all other lords. He is the ruler of everyone and everything. Boy it feels so good to say that!!! You know why? Because just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him. In love He predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will. (Ephesians 1:4-5 emphasis mine) WE are the siblings of Christ! WE are the sons and daughters of God Almighty! WE are in God’s royal family. You are His daughter, His baby girl. Now stay with me here, if God is THE King of kings and we are His children (Rom 8:14 & 16 and Gal 3:26-29), then we are princesses!
Oh, but wait, it gets even better! As God’s children we receive royal benefits as well! In Matthew 7: 9-11 it says what man is there among you who, when his son asks for a loaf, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, he will not give him a snake, will he? If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give what is good to those who ask Him! If we love and cherish our own children and want to give them good things, then how much more does God our Father want to give good things to us!?! He loves us so much more than we could ever comprehend; of course He wants good things for us!
1 John 3:1 tells of how God LAVISHES his love on us, His children. When was the last time you had human love lavished on you? How great was it? Now think about all the times in your life you’ve felt really loved, all those times it was God using that person’s arms to hug you, their voice to encourage you and make you laugh. But that’s not even the best part of being His child. The best part is how it makes you valuable. Here’s a little bit from one of my journal entries:
“Oh the changes He’s made! I wonder if He lets us screw up when we’re young so that He can show off by fixing us as we get older. I had no idea I was so broken. I thought my worth was in my body and my sex appeal, no, not ALL my worth, but the majority of it. Through this journey (of the sex fast and writing this book) I’ve discovered my TRUE worth and value and that I’ve been bought with an un-payable price. I’m more than priceless, I’m Christ’s. By attaching myself to HIM my value becomes more than who I am or what I do or wear. It’s who I’m with. I am the LORD’S and He is mine. My value comes from Him and the fact that I am His child. My children are priceless to me because they are mine. I am priceless to Him because I am His child. I have an “all access pass” because “I’m with Him”. I’m with Christ! With Christ, all things are possible; including turning a stay at home mom into a princess and a mechanic into a prince charming; completely sweeping me off my feet, in every sense of the word. Thank you Lord! Praise be to You alone! You did all this. Thank you for being in the heart-changing business!”
Husband, your wife is a daughter of God. God is THE King of kings. So that makes your wife a princess and she should be treated as such. If you start treating her as a princess, she is most likely to reciprocate that back to you. If you want to be treated as royalty, you first need to treat her as royalty.
A side note to the wives. Your confidence in yourself is one of the most appealing aspects about you. If you show off your confidence and royalty (remember not stuck up and snotty, precious royalty), your husband will have no problems treating you as royalty.
Tamar used to wear somewhat baggy clothes to kind of hide her curves. Recently, since our first fast, she has started wearing clothes that fit her well. They show off her curves (which are very sexy) without being revealing. She has confidence in herself so she doesn’t feel like she needs to hide anymore. And believe me, I complement her every chance I get.